Episode #016 — Tayler Silfverduk: Transforming ADHD Challenges into Strengths

Melanie Branch: Hello and welcome to another episode of trailblazers rising where we share stories about scaling beyond limits today I'm so excited to have on Taylor silver Duke who popped up on my radar very recently on the social medias the tick tocks and the Instagrams and I said who is this I'm very interested in this ADHD business coach.

She's adorable and I really like her style so welcome Taylor I'm so glad to have you on today.

Tayler Silfverduck: Thank you for having me,

Melanie Branch: You are so welcome so we are going to dive right in cause I want to know all about you as much as everyone listening wants to know all about you so first and foremost spill the beans what sparked your entrepreneurial journey?

Give us all the juicy details.

Tayler Silfverduck: man I think I was I've been an entrepreneur since I can remember I've always been trying to figure out how I can make money so from lemonade stands to being a girl scout to selling cupcakes outside my front house I've always been trying to figure out like what can I do that I'm passionate about and also make money to pay for things that I'm interested in and also pay my bills obviously.

So I really think that it all formally started when I was in high school I actually ran my own fermentation business where I sold homemade fermented artisanal vinegars in my city and I did that wholesale and retail and then I really got into like the gut health space and helping people heal their guts because I had also been diagnosed with celiac disease.

So I decided to become a dietician and I knew going in to become a dietician that I wanted to have my own practice and I wanted to work for myself so I also started building my own social media page related to that and then From there I kind of realized Oh my gosh I've been coping with ADHD this whole time and I had no help with it.

And there were a lot of things in my business that weren't friendly to my ADHD needs so I made a bunch of changes and I was like wow I don't feel like anybody's talking about this at least in the helper business space and then I decided to also become an ADHD business coach so that's that's but I've always been hustling.

I've always been trying to make money doing what I wanted to do so.

Melanie Branch: We that is what I call what me and my business partner at the Neuro Spicy Academy call healthy hustle right so that intrinsic internal drive to be successful and make money and help people without hurting yourself without overdoing it without the burnout quality now I love the space that you occupy because I do believe that we thrive when we take a holistic intuitive approach to healing ourselves as neurodivergent individuals right?

We know healing is a lifelong path and journey we know that I don't know anybody that just goes whoop I'm healed and that is that right and it's not like we're not trying to say don't have ADHD anymore what we're trying to say is let's make your life and business work for the way your brain works.

Tayler Silfverduck: Exactly yes yeah.

Melanie Branch: So let us dive deeper and tell us about the one lesson that you've learned that stands out above the rest when it comes to We'll just dive in and say social media and using social media for your business.

Tayler Silfverduck: The one lesson that I've used the one lesson that I've learned for using social media in my business ooh I feel like there's a lot of advice on what kind of content you should make how to grow what you should talk about having to niche down super specifically and I think as ADHD years that can feel like a lot and it can feel paralyzing almost like you get ADHD paralysis about starting your social media.

And what I had to do every single time that I've started a business was just start posting and see what I liked to create see and see how that how my audience responded to it and kind of adapting to not just you know what I like to create but what I like to create that my audience did respond to.

And I thought I think I see a lot of people get stuck in trying to figure it out before they start and that is where I see a lot of paralysis happening because of that perfectionism that wanting to show up like I have it all figured out right now but the truth is like I'm I'm still figuring it out.

Like it's constantly changing with the algorithm if I were to just stop and wait and figure out how I was supposed to do it perfectly before starting on social media I would I would still not have a business.

Melanie Branch: What do you think okay this is funny and I knew that we were going to get off topic and not I wasn't going to ask you all my official questions that I always ask but my brain has scrambled eggs today from a very busy weekend so we're going to go with that what do you believe is the correlation between perfectionism and ADHD in AFAB Entrepreneurs.

Tayler Silfverduck: I think it's a way to Avoid failure and avoid feeling like I feel I feel like it's a protection mechanism for failure that's what I at least that's how it showed up in me so they,

Melanie Branch: Cause you know if it has to be perfect before you can release it to the ether and to the masses then you're never going to release it.

Tayler Silfverduck: exactly yeah.

Melanie Branch: Now I will say as the neuro spicy mindset coach I ask every one of my clients and every one of the neuro spicy academy members when they get stuck in this thought loop of perfectionism.

And I can't I can't do anything until it's perfect is something similar to this cause it always happens on the spot say okay so point me to a perfect piece of content you ever created and they go well I don't have one I said okay well point me to a perfect piece of content somebody else created.

And they said well I don't have that I said all right well point me to a perfect person in your world I can't do that okay so maybe the perfection is the thing that's keeping us from doing the task cause you know as well as anybody as an ADHD business coach that what we think is holding us back isn't what's actually holding us back.

Tayler Silfverduck: Yeah I can't I can't tell you how many times I've heard like my course just isn't done yet I still haven't finished this one thing like there's so many reasons why it's not ready but there's also a million reasons why it is I

Melanie Branch: Yep I am a firm believer in messy action and if you are,

Tayler Silfverduck: the most ADHD friendly because otherwise it's so easy to get stuck.

Melanie Branch: I actually found out okay so when it comes to email marketing which is something that I'm very interested in and getting better at every day and I follow I follow a lot of really big coaches in multiple industries but health and wellness mindset business that sort of that sort of thing they don't necessarily they're not neurodivergent specific.

And I do that because I want to see what emails everybody's sending like all right what do these people say how often are they sending let's see and when I tell you that in all of my emails if you are if you are subscribed to my newsletter you will get a few emails a week and at least one of those emails is going to have a mispunctuation a misspelling but it's never going to be a there there and there.

Those are always going to be right but is a help going to get through instead of a help absolutely I don't know why let's blame the computer not the user but what I found out in marketing people will send out an email with a bad link or with like a misspelling or something like that in the subject line to get opens because think about this if you send out a beautifully crafted email with a link to join your workshop or whatever it is and that link doesn't work then a the email gods are happy because people are emailing you back and saying Hey this link didn't work and B You can just send that same email the next day with a whoops in the in the subject line and it's going to get a bigger open rate and you didn't have to write another email so that's just a knowledge bomb for everybody that does email marketing people do that on purpose when I do it it's on accident and I would like everybody to know that but it is it's a very serendipitous accident and another proof in the pudding of why perfectionism is not the goal right?

Tayler Silfverduck: Yeah and I I think for me you know obviously the mistakes are always an accident they're never intentional but I think that that's also a really good lesson of with perfectionism almost by being trying to achieve perfection in everything that you do you almost lose that humanness side that side of like Oh my gosh this person is a human being who wants to help me too.

And that can be really dissuasive to buyers as well versus like Oh I mean like almost everyone has accidentally sent the wrong link or not sent a link when they thought they would and so like letting that and just letting that like just going with that flow can also kind of speak to your human side of the fact that like you're a human behind your business.

Melanie Branch: Absolutely so I am very big on time management and energy management and I believe those are two different things and one of my clients actually sent me a link to a article about move over time management the new thing is energy management and we got to talking about how both of those are so very very important especially when you're neurodivergent because we have time blindness.

I tell people straight up between my dyscalculia and my time blindness I don't know where I am most of the time and I don't know how long I've been here so how would you say that you handle time management in your business absolutely

Tayler Silfverduck: management is so I would say I actually really really struggled with this before my partner ended up getting a job when I partner didn't have a job I would work all hours of the day whenever just because I always wanted to spend time with them or I want to spend time with friends but now I try to pair my work schedule similar to theirs so that we're off at the same times.

And that's really helped me with getting at least the work hours in but then figuring out what to do I think is the other part your time on projects so you're not spending all your time in newsletter marketing when you need to be balancing it out with other things for me that's been a lot of like I have very flexible blocks of time for what I should be working on.

And if I if I'm not feeling a newsletter like say Mondays I have newsletter a block of newsletters for me I will swap it with something else that's on my calendar depending on what I'm in the mood for but Bye the newsletter is still on my calendar to work on for the week but I have the flexibility of choosing if it's not something that I'm feeling motivation or energy wise.

That makes sense.

Melanie Branch: so thank you I love that you're using the term flexible because if it ain't flexible it ain't for me I tell you what now when we talk about running a business and you run multiple businesses what would you say fuels your fire first and foremost to run those businesses other than the freedom and flexibility of nobody ever telling you what the fuck to do.

Tayler Silfverduck: Yeah that would be like the number one thing but I'd say I always I hear a lot of people talk about like would you do you work to live or live to work and I honestly believe that even if I didn't have to make money doing what I do I would still do it because it is something that I'm so passionate about and something that like I could talk about for hours.

I could talk about celiac disease for hours I could talk about ADHD for hours so what helps me like what keeps me going I lost the question but I think that that's where I'm at is that that like passion and that excitement that I feel and that honestly it's the sense of community for me these are spaces that are personal to me.

I have celiac I have ADHD I run my own business and so because it's so personal to me it's easy for me to

Melanie Branch: love that I'm so glad that we're finally meeting I know that this isn't the most professional thing but I knew I was going to love you my spirit guides are real loud about certain people and at the moment you came across my FYP I went okay all right I hear you I hear you I hear you all right.

Which brings me to being vulnerable is something that I am not very good at doing and it is because you know I like to connect with people but I like to connect with the right people and I am a huge proponent and preacher and believer of don't speak up in rooms that are full of people that are committed to misunderstanding you and I have I have listen when it comes to trusting your gut and fighting the good fight.

I even have a word with my spirit guides that I that I hear in my head when it is time to stop talking to somebody because they're committed to misunderstanding me and that's when I hear the word idiot and I go all right cool that means that I will be an idiot to continue wasting my time and energy on a person that just wants to stick to what they're saying and doesn't want to hear what it is that I'm saying.

Right so what would you say has been very helpful for you on your entrepreneurial journey when it comes to like networking and whatnot because when we have ADHD I'm sorry I don't always want to talk to people so what helps you when it comes to you know building those connections and relationships and networking?

Tayler Silfverduck: So that's really complicated I guess part of it is I put out content that I feel like is speaking to my heart it's coming from like a very Authentic place so I hope that it calls the people that it's supposed to call that sounds like such a non actionable piece of advice,

Melanie Branch: Everybody's going to go to your social media and they're going to see when I tell my when I tell the members of the Neurospicy Academy that I need a fricking hook at the beginning of every one of their videos you call out exactly the person that you were talking to with every one of your videos.

It is amazing and I love you for it.

Tayler Silfverduck: Yeah so that part I think is really helpful and then you know I have Obviously we have like specific approaches and ideas that attract similar people of like minds in different networking spaces so just kind of making my values known making my beliefs known so that the people that I want to network with the people that I want to be surrounded with the people that I want in my corner professionally networking wise are there is really important.

So like as a dietitian I have some like specific approaches that I like to take with my clients and I make that very clear in my work so that I'm attracting the clients who appreciate that approach and I'm also attracting dietitians who specialize in other areas of health that may need attention to so that we can work together and send each other clients as we have people who might be a better fit.

fit for someone else so I think by making your values clear and your beliefs clear you can not only reach your target audience and really speak to them and help them feel seen and potentially build that rapport in that community that also helps you feel more motivated to keep showing up but also you can also speak to the people who are also in a similar space who are trying to do something similar with other markets and build that connection to because you both know like okay I would feel really comfortable sending Sending somebody who needs help with mindset to Melanie versus like you know someone else that I know doesn't have a ADHD friendly approach if that makes sense.

Melanie Branch: Absolutely absolutely cause those of us in the health and wellness space and the neurodivergent health and wellness space even more particularly and then closer in dealing with entrepreneurs and business owners We really have specific challenges that are pretty universal for people with our experiences right?

Impostor syndrome,

Tayler Silfverduck: hmm.

Melanie Branch: So I would like everybody listening to know that my special interest is research so I go hard and ham on anything that is interesting in any way shape or form and imposter syndrome is right up there at the top of the list and I'll tell you I found out that two women psychiatrists or they're in that field at a university in Georgia.

I don't know which one it is because again I have scrambled egg brains from a very busy weekend however they came up they coined the term imposter syndrome back in the late seventies when they noticed in their their field of high achieving academic academia women of academia academic women We're all dealing with this this feeling that no matter what the award no matter what the promotion no matter what good thing came to them they could not attribute it to their own merit.

They had to say something like Oh well I guess everybody else that was up for it wasn't that great or Oh it's just because I worked really hard or anything like that whereas the men that field would get the award and say thank you so when I tell people imposter syndrome is like breast cancer it can affect men but it's primarily a woman's issue I would like everybody to know that so my imposter when she speaks up I call her Piper cause she's always piping up when I don't want to hear her and what I found being a business mindset coach for so long is that everyone's imposter syndrome says something different to them so my imposter syndrome says who the fuck do you think you are you don't know this you don't know enough about this you can't help people with it everybody knows the amount of information that you know so I'm curious what does your imposter say to you and how do you battle them?

Tayler Silfverduck: Wow I'm trying to think and actually I haven't heard my imposter syndrome

Melanie Branch: Okay I'll just go then all right no need

Tayler Silfverduck: wait no! Stop! Stop! No this is not to say I don't struggle with it because that voice comes up a lot and sometimes it can be really hard to push through but I think like especially when I'm burnt out or if I have some needs that are not being met.

She said she tends to be a lot louder but I would say

Melanie Branch: What do you mean hold on break it down so when you have needs that aren't being met she gets louder so that must mean she has maybe a little bit of a loving tone or like you're forgetting about me would that be true?

Tayler Silfverduck: No I think i'm just more likely to hear her if I am not weaker but just I have some blind spots that I'm ignoring so for example if I'm overworking and I'm not giving myself the chance to rest I'm not eating routinely those kinds of things where like I'm not setting myself up to have the strength and the you know when I'm talking with my clients in nutrition part of the Biggest things that I'd like to talk about is if you're not eating enough then you don't have the energy to process things at full potential.

And so like if I'm not eating enough then I literally don't have the energy to stand up against her and be like mm not not today so it gets louder and louder and louder if I am going heading for burnout which I think happens to the best of us the goal is to have it happen less but That's and I would say usually it's saying a lot of the same thing of like you don't have enough degrees.

You don't have enough credentials you're not trained enough in this you know who are you to say anything you know this person is so much more confident than you they probably have a much better approach like and that's just what I always have to remind myself is is I am me and I'm going to speak to the people who need to hear my voice and need to hear my approach and my value.

And it's okay if someone chooses someone else because they have a different approach and that doesn't say anything about me but it I mean like obviously I still struggle but that's one of the things that kind of gets me through it is because there are people that like I choose because I just needed to hear them say it.

If that makes sense.

Melanie Branch: I love that I have to ask you cause you have so much wisdom and knowledge how many years have you been out of high school?

Tayler Silfverduck: Oh my gosh I can't

Melanie Branch: listening only and you're not watching it's cause she is a baby face and it's the most adorable baby face but like you have so much experience under your belt and knowledge under your belt and wisdom under your belt for a young you're in your twenties

Tayler Silfverduck: Yeah I I so I'm 26 so eight years yeah.

Melanie Branch: just been doing business since Girl Scouts.

Tayler Silfverduck: Girl Scouts you know I think that that counts but I actually I actually usually just count all the way back to my vinegar business but

Melanie Branch: Yeah we can go farther back than that I'm here I'll give you all the accolades in the world absolutely so another another comorbidity of ADHD that runs at a very high rate they're talking 90% probably more is rejection sensitivity dysphoria and when I tell you the freedom that I felt once I found out about rejection sensitivity dysphoria and premenstrual dysphoric disorder I went IT!

I'm not crazy I am not crazy these are literally like and I'll give you an example because I love an example I think examples are the spice of life and the only way that keeps us going I've been married to my husband for 9 million years we got married in 2006 so don't even tell me if you were born then or not because I don't even want to know.

I've been married to my husband for a very long time and I love him dearly and he loves me dearly every single time I call him and he doesn't answer my first gut reaction is he's at the divorce attorney's drawing up the paperwork cause my REJECTION SENSITIVITY! Cause he is the most important person in the world to me and if I lost him I don't know what I would do.

Now! That I understand it's the rejection sensitivity my second thought is is this rational and then I say no and so I can stop that spiral before it starts so I'm curious to know you've been running businesses for a long time and you run multiple businesses now which requires sales to get clients and all that sort of stuff.

And I know that's one of the biggest complaints of all of my members at the newer spicy Academy and my clients so how do you handle rejection sensitivity how do you just take it on the chin and keep moving forward?

Tayler Silfverduck: I think having the passion for what you're doing and the desire to help people or serve people in the way that you choose is really what helps keep me going in a sense of okay maybe they don't need my help right now but there is someone who does need my help and honestly I kind of reframe it in a perspective of I'm glad.

they don't need my help right like I would love to help anyone who needs my help but if they if I'm not for them that's that's fine and if they're not struggling with the things that I can help them with you know honestly that is a blessing but it's funny you mentioned like your partner and feeling like they're always going to the Divorce attorney because I feel like I'm constantly like waiting for I'm waiting to do the one thing that's going to make my partner leave me and it's never like there's I can't do anything but like the rejection sensitivity is so strong.

I would say like it shows up the strongest for me in posting on social media and it also shows up the strongest for me in sales to social media it hurts like no other when you are being authentic and pouring your soul into your content and it gets No likes no views and I always have to remind myself to especially when I'm marketing or pushing something that I'm selling I'm not posting it for engagement.

I'm posting it to get in front of the people who need my help so that they can buy from me and that I can support them so I have to reframe how I'm attributing the metric or the value to the kind of engagement that I'm getting and for sales like I can't tell you how many failed businesses because I only told you the ones that like I actually followed through with.

I can tell you how many failed businesses how many failed launches that I've had in selling stuff and it It sucks when you're like why is no one buying from me I know this is a really great offer I know that I poured everything into this I poured everything into my marketing and it hurts and it cuts deeper.

I feel like with rejection sensitivity it feels like you failed in life entirely and there's no future like that sounds so I feel like it sounds dramatic but that's how it feels and I just have to remind myself like there are things that I can adjust if I want to try again or you know it's not about me.

And that's one of the biggest things I also I also really try I'm not that great at it because this is like my passion both both sides are so personal to me but I try to separate and reframe it as also that is about my business that's not about me right like I'm separate as as passionate as I am and am at it about it and as intertwined as I am with it.

Very separate and it has nothing to do with my value it has nothing to do with the value of what I was offering It has everything to do with who chose to buy it and not and that's that doesn't have to be Although it feels personal it doesn't have to be personal.

Melanie Branch: it doesn't have to be personal you know really as a mindset coach the one thing that plays in my head when I am taking something personally is this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with them right when you know when we leave a party and we go home and we're berating ourselves about all the stupid shit that we said and oh my God why did I say that?

The person you were talking to went home and did the same thing but about themselves like nobody is thinking and talking about you as much as you are so that really helps me you know reign it in when the spiral starts but I have to ask you since I have a an ADHD business coach and a dietician here please tell us some of the most either slept on or gate capped or should be more well known tips and tricks for improving your ADHD symptoms with diet.

So we know first and foremost a high protein diet I know it sucks it's boring but it's true give me some other good the good stuff tell me what I gotta know.

Tayler Silfverduck: So I'll first say I think Specialization is really important to acknowledge so I primarily specialized in celiac disease So my specialty is not in ADHD specific nutrition I do like know some general facts but I just want to say that the same goes for like I think when you're when you're signing up for business coaches and any other kind of helper it's important you're choosing somebody who specializes in the right thing for what you need help with because that drastically changes the level of care and the level of support that you

Melanie Branch: And the outcome absolutely.

Tayler Silfverduck: sure yeah but for ADHD I would say protein can be really helpful just with balancing blood sugars and balancing your energy levels I would also say like oftentimes if it's coming down to you not eating and eating anything at all just eating something can be really helpful and having those really simple meals can be really really efficient.

So like protein shakes like wow my brain is blinking oh wow yeah hold on.

Melanie Branch: That's why you're in a you're in a neurodivergent friendly space it happens to all of us.

Tayler Silfverduck: Or like a peanut butter sandwich you got carbs you got fat you got protein like at if it if it's coming down to and I I know we all have that perfectionistic or not all of us but a lot of us have that black and white

Melanie Branch: we all got it it's all right we got it.

Tayler Silfverduck: So when it comes down to it often times I also think that that can stop someone from eating and if it's coming down to you eating nothing and eating at all just eat the thing that you know you'll eat.

And and you know I think also novelty is really important and sometimes it's it's going to be boring and you just have to eat it in order to get through it so those would be I'm not sure what I said but those would be the things that came to my mind.

Melanie Branch: I'm really interested because I know a few people that I have known closely in my past that do have that are celiacs or have celiac I don't know how you're supposed to say it but how early on or like when did you find out about your celiac what were the symptoms that you were having before you found out that made you say something's going on?

Tayler Silfverduck: So I had digestive distress for years and this is I think part of the reason why I had trouble getting an ADHD diagnosis to just from past medical traumas but I had digestive distress for years and was written off as it being anxiety stress whatever it is and it it actually didn't I wasn't diagnosed until my high school years after my mom got diagnosed on a Luke and they were like Oh maybe we should screen you for celiac too.

And I do notice something there's a pretty high overlap of people who have ADHD and celiac and there's also it's really important to tease out too celiac disease untreated celiac disease which basically means if you're not living gluten free if you have celiac disease has a high level of ADHD like symptoms that can pop up which can also cause a misdiagnosis in ADHD as well.

So it gets really complicated to tease out the two but I will say if I have been exposed to gluten with celiac disease My ADHD symptoms act up like nobody's business like it is so hard to focus it's so hard to have like that executive function to think clearly so yeah that's a little bit about how the celiac has been involved.

Melanie Branch: So when it comes to managing your issues with executive function right so like right now I've said a few times that I have scrambled egg brains because I hosted a workshop over the weekend and it's taxing on me to you know remember where you are and in your presentation and be looking at everybody's faces and judging if they're getting it where you have it you know that sort of thing.

So I built in to my schedule every day rest time and I limit transition as much as possible and I align with my natural energy cycle so like between 3 and 6 p m every day I am not going to be working on my business I can be talking to my business partner or talking to members at the Neuro Spicy Academy on our virtual campus but I'm not actively able to get my brain.

To do the work thing right and whether that's because I have kids and they're now teenagers but like that three to six hour was usually when you're picking them up from school and you're taking them to practice and you're making dinner la la la la my brain literally it's like a joke at the academy that just boop Melanie's she's still there but she can't do any work on her business.

You're not going to be writing any emails right now so what have you found really helps you Manage that the ADHD you know executive function issues organization and task paralysis what helps you the most?

Tayler Silfverduck: So I'll say like my time of day is and I always joke like every hour past 6 p m I am more unreliable like that is like what I'm completely spent but I would say what helps me the most is kind of evaluating and checking in with myself where is my executive function at and what am I supposed to be working on?

And what is a task that based on the levels that I have right now that I would be able to manage and then also kind of trying to come up with Hacks and things to make things easier where I do need to spend a lot of executive function or compromises that I can I can make when I need to do something that requires an executive function and I just don't have it.

Did that answer the

Melanie Branch: like that you know my so I'll go a step further my biggest executive function hack right now and it's what I'm making a lot of content about today is using chat GBT to write all of my emails and what I mean by that is I don't know what area of executive function this really lies in but I have all of it up here in my brain everything that I want to say.

I can see how I want to say it where the bullet points go and all that sort of stuff but then when I sit there looking at the blank page getting ready to type formulating it can take me hours hours so I go on chat GPT and I treat him like he's my little little golden retriever you know assistant that wants to do nothing but take care of me and help me.

And he's very capable and smart he just needs direction and I say Hey I'm back again I need to write an email that says da da da da da da da da and I literally just like brain dump on him and then I say can you help me with that and he spits out the email so that's the biggest hack that I have for executive function in business.

What are some of yours yeah.

Tayler Silfverduck: been using ChatGPT a lot too it's been one of the biggest game changers for me so I'll I I I will write something out in WordVomit exactly like you do and then I'll be like okay make this make sense or alternatively I've been doing a lot of like I feel like for me the hardest part is to get started.

I feel like the biggest block is like I I when I'm writing newsletters I can't even I don't really know what I want to say I kind of have an idea of like where I'm supposed to go one second I have to cough.

Melanie Branch: Let it

Tayler Silfverduck: But I don't I don't thank you I'd say like I I can't visualize anything and I don't really I have a lot of trouble with storytelling and telling things in a in a Line that makes sense and I feel like a lot of the times I am just word vomiting So just having chatGBT walk me through things I'll also have it coach me through Steps so like for example if I need to I don't know I want to make a quiz I'm like okay.

I want to make a quiz on helping people figure out what kind of executive function they're struggling with right now.

Melanie Branch: Yeah.

Tayler Silfverduck: this up on the fly right so like what executive function type is speaking to me right now so then I'll ask it and I'll say coach me through this question by question how to create this quiz.

And so then it like asks me the question and helps me do it so it actually coaches me through it I will say sometimes it really misses the mark and you really have to like baby it but it is really helpful in just at least getting started and figuring out what it is that I need to do to do the task that I am trying to do that I feel completely Paralyzed by

Melanie Branch: Yeah.

Tayler Silfverduck: and it's I think taking it the step past the like list out what I need to do because I can make a list Okay I'm great at making lists.

I need you to like actually hold my hand through it

Melanie Branch: Yeah absolutely oh my God I love that so much oh I knew I was going to love interviewing you you're so you're such a good time oh you're such a good time well that will bring me to my last official question which is communication is key we know this in life especially right now during this mercury retrograde.

Do you have any tricks for clearly communicating your message in you know your marketing your social media your mission statement all that sort of stuff when it comes to conveying what you do and for whom you do it.

Tayler Silfverduck: So I would say first especially if you're just starting out be flexible so when I first started I ADHD business coaching I was primarily targeting a very specific type of helper but I'm realizing that I want that to be a lot more broad so be flexible if you see a need to change but also like literally if you're trying to reach that audience literally call them talk to them.

Like Like you said when I was making all of my posts I literally say Hey ADHD you're in business cause that's the person I want to talk to literally call them out call the descriptors and if that doesn't work for you if you feel like it's not working it's okay to be flexible to who you want to speak to.

But literally like call them out and call their descriptors and let them know like you are the person I want to talk to you are who I've been looking for I think that's probably my biggest piece of advice.

Melanie Branch: just be clear be clear You're not being annoying and if they are annoyed they can unfollow.

Tayler Silfverduck: Yeah and I always tell myself if they are annoyed they were never going to buy from me and I am a business first so if you're willing to filter through all my marketing and take all the free nuggets good on you I love having you here and also if you feel like my marketing isn't worth it and you never wanted to buy from me anyways that's also okay.

You know like but I am a business first so I have to market I got to pay my bills so yeah,

Melanie Branch: absolutely yeah all right Taylor So right now what I'm gonna have you do before we get to the lightning round of bonus fun questions I'm going to ask you to plug your spot tell everybody listening where they can find you it'll all be linked as well and what they can grab from you right now to get an improvement either in their nutrition or in their ADHD business.

Plug your spot.

Tayler Silfverduck: so if you have celiac disease and you're listening and you want help simplifying living with celiac disease I have an entire course that will walk you through the entire process and simplify it all for you because I know it can be really hard to filter through all the misinformation and it can also make it.

it can feel really difficult to filter into actionable steps that don't feel completely overwhelming I feel like it adds an added layer of overwhelm to living with ADHD and then if you are an ADHD business owner specifically I really like working with helpers because I am in the helping profession.

And you're looking for help with

Melanie Branch: helper what do you mean?

Tayler Silfverduck: Oh talking about being specific about your audiences if you're a helper like a therapist a dietitian a wellness coach movement coach that kind of thing you're the person that I really really want to work with and just help I help people build strategies and action plans that are ADHD friendly for different things that they want to launch or developing offers that feel like they're not completely burning them out.

So if you want that help feel free to DM me on Instagram or Tik TOK at ADHD dot business coach and I'm happy to chat.

Melanie Branch: Yeah! Excellent all right are you ready for the lightning round?

Tayler Silfverduck: Yes.

Melanie Branch: All right these are fun questions they're not scary don't worry first and foremost what's your favorite social media platform?

Tayler Silfverduck: Instagram.

Melanie Branch: First time I've gotten Instagram okay.

Tayler Silfverduck: Really what does everyone say?

Melanie Branch: TikTok tikTok.

Tayler Silfverduck: like you're like big on TikTok so probably TikTok but I love Instagram.

Melanie Branch: I love TikTok I'm learning to love Instagram I will say that all right number two what is the most recent rabbit hole you've gone down?

Tayler Silfverduck: Help it's not coming to me.

Melanie Branch: So I I have recently gone down rabbit holes about dog breeds it's something that I was very well versed in as a child my parents handed me this big book of dog breeds because we were like Hey we want we want a dog you know my sister and I they said all right here and they handed me this book that was a sick and said figure it out.

And I read all of it and so I've recently been going down rabbit holes about dog breeds most specifically the doodles the labradoodles and stuff because I don't they have a a human face and I'm uncomfortable like when they like their eyes can both see through you and like you are you're like looking into their soul so that is my most recent rabbit hole so if you remember yours that's fine you can tell us later number three oh go ahead bye.

Tayler Silfverduck: I was gonna say I think it's actually Chattubt I'm watching like every YouTube video possible on Chattubt I want this thing to make my life easier in every sense not just business personal life working out all of that so probably chat

Melanie Branch: he really can he really it's a joke me and my business partner Christina at the Neurospicy Academy we'll be like Chat can you help me ha ha ha ha try and treat him like he's a human alright question number three what is your emotional support show?

Tayler Silfverduck: Oh my gosh Gilmore Girls.

Melanie Branch: Really that's the first time I've gotten that one I haven't thought about Gilmore Girls in a very long time okay we'll give you Gilmore Girls absolutely number four is a two parter first and foremost have you consumed any water today?

Tayler Silfverduck: Yes!

Melanie Branch: And do you want to share your emotional support water cup that was not an emotional support water cup.

Tayler Silfverduck: This is okay so sad actually sad story I left my emotional support workup at my mom's and she's like an hour away so I'm stuck with this water bottle that I bought at a gas station so.

Melanie Branch: you guys get reunited soon I'm sorry for you all right and then the last one what is your current dopamine snack and or meal?

Tayler Silfverduck: Oh man I can't answer this one I'm in a I'm in a dopamine funk right now nothing is giving me I know it's it's really rough and I just that's where that's where my nutrition advice earlier where it was like just eat something that's where I'm at at the moment food is not doing it for me there's not one thing that I'm obsessed with.

I'm waiting for her to come back to me because it makes it so much easier.

Melanie Branch: yeah it does absolutely it does all right well mine is cheese toast I

Tayler Silfverduck: that actually

Melanie Branch: sourdough it's making a mess of my toaster oven but I tell you what man she hits the spot every day.

Tayler Silfverduck: Sounds delicious.

Melanie Branch: Every day I love it I put a little bit of black sesame seeds on there and a little bit of Celtic sea salt just to really zhuzh it up.

Tayler Silfverduck: Oh wow.

Melanie Branch: I'm a Taurus sun and a Taurus rising I'm bougie built in there's something I can do about it so Taylor I want to thank you so much for being on the show today everybody make sure that you check out Taylor on all of her socials it's at ADHD dot business coach and then from there you can obviously connect to her dietician.

Is that the right way to say it?

Tayler Silfverduck: Celiac dietitian.

Melanie Branch: Celiac dietitian pages as well so thank you so much Taylor tell everybody how much you love them.

Tayler Silfverduck: Thank you so much for watching love you guys so much love connecting with other ADHDers so even if you just pop in to say hi I'd love it.

Melanie Branch: Yeah there's no better conversation than with a fellow ADHDer.

Tayler Silfverduck: Mm

Melanie Branch: I love it excellent all right